chipo siamafuwa
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I have created this website as a last resort, and decided to go public with this issue because private diplomacy has not worked. Chipo Siamafuwa is from Kafue, Zambia. She is an immigrant to Canada, arriving in Canada on Feb 15, 2018, and is possibly residing in Fort McMurray or in Edmonton. After I had been supporting her financially for three years while she was still in Zambia awaiting to come to Canada, and after the expense of hiring an immigration agency and the cost of the trip and other expenses, and now that she has Canadian citizenship and a healthy son, then to hell with me. She has no further need for me so she dumps me but stays in Canada to provide a good life for herself and her family back in Zambia, after she promised to return to Zambia with me where I was making provisions for her here. I met with her mother in Kafue who automatically took the position against me because her and her family here in Zambia wd not be able to benefit financially. Follow the money (and the sperm). The following are chat messages from Jan 13, 2024:  

In this chat session she is clearly desiring to further use me to get sperm, but refuses to have me in her life any more, nor wants me as the father to my own children. Yet she denies that this is using me.  She will "find another way" (find another man to use him also for his sperm, and commit adultery against me.) I wd only have consented to another child if it was produced out a loving and caring relationship in which we remain together as a loving and caring family, and I as the father I am raising my own children. This is the "bigger picture. Am I to be expected to give sperm artificially to create another baby whom I will be deprived of?

She has taken my son Asher away from me, as is she owns him (see also Asher.Africa) and she uses him as a weapon against me. She uses the police as a threat because in Canada all a woman has to do is call the police with a false accusation and the police automatically arrest him and he goes to jail.

On Jan 2d on voice chat my son told me "daddy come back" which broke my heart because how can I explain to him what is happening when he was only 3 years and 9 months old at that time? (I did not leave my son but was forced out by her threats and extortion). I am not allowed to talk with my son any more. I have created this website in defense of my son, who has been deprived of his father, and he cannot protest. As his father it is my duty to speak out for him and defend him. I love my son and it hurts me much to have him taken out of my life, and he is hurting also because of this. He also loves,needs, and misses his father.

Chipo knows that the police in Canada automatically take the side of the woman, and she knows that the courts in Canada are biased towards women and against men, and she takes full advantage of this knowledge. She holds all the cards. The court is entirely her idea. I have never said anything about courts because I have never entertained the idea of separation or divorce or of splitting up the family. This is entirely a one-sided idea of hers, yet she makes I look like a two sided idea that "we" go to court. She likes the courts for the simple reason that courts (in Canada) always rule in favour of the woman. Another problem here is that many people believe that if something is legal it is also morally right. Chipo wants her wrong intentions and wrong actions to be agreed with by the court to make her wrongness become "right" (in her own eyes). To have a court rubber-stamp its approval of her wrongful actions as being "legal" does not change the fact that what she is doing is morally wrong, and I will have no part of this. If she goes to court for the purpose of "separation" or "divorce", she does so alone. 

She has also committed theft of my property which she had at her place and which she refuses to allow me to access. (if it is even all there any more)

My position has been consistent right from the start in that it is wrong to break up a family, and that when a man and woman make a commitment, they need to keep it. A commitment is a commitment is a commitment. I have never once even suggested the possibility of leaving her. The issue here is that of maturity and responsibility. It is a serious thing to make a commitment to someone of the opposite sex. If we are not honest about it and have the right motives, and do not intend to keep it, then we shd not have made that commitment in the first place. In the following example the circumstances are different, but the principle involved is the same. Try borrowing money from a bank then unilaterally decidng that you want to break the commitment to pay it back, and see what happens! Yet people do not take seriously the commitment that they make to the opposite sex, and they avoid their responsibility to follow thru with it. The fact is that they were not commited in the first place. They cannot blame anyone else for this, any more than someone can blame the bank for them not paying back their loan. It's an issue of honesty, responsibility, maturity, integrity, and correct or incorrect motives.

The common understanding of marriage is wrong. In reality marriage does not exist. Let me explain: Supposing that I get a loan from the bank, then later I go to a judge and ask him to cancel my commitment to the bank to pay back the money. Of course a judge will not do this, yet courts do this for marriage to allow people to avoid their commitments. A marriage cannot exist because if it can be voided, then there is nothing binding it together and therefore it cannot exist, any more than a loan agreement can exist if it is not binding and a judge can simply void it. Banks wd stop borrowing money. The coming together of a man and woman is in reality based purely on the honesty, character, integrity, maturity, and responsibility of each. A "marriage" is only a piece of paper and has no value. The only thing that has value is the character, integrity, maturity, and responsibility of the man and woman. I only went thru with the legal procedure to "marry" Chipo because it was a requirement to bring her to Canada. 

When anyone breaks a commitment they have no one to blame but themselves, despite hiding behind excuses or legal "reasons". A judge can declare that a woman can murder her baby, but does that make it right? A judge can declare that at school dances (as in the case now in Canada) that a boy can dance with a boy and a girl dance with a girl, and that a man can marry a man and a woman marry a woman, but does that make it right? We have to get away from this idea that anything that is legal is also right, and that the courts are "God's servants" which is a wrong teaching of Christianity (read Romans chapter 13). Courts are used to rubber stamp wrong doing and to justify evil. In this case what Chipo had done against me and Asher is wrong, but to appease her guilty conscience and attemp to quell the cognitive dissonance within her she seeks the approval of the court and her like-minded friends who share the same wrong mindset, and as a group they regurgitate the same fallacies to keep propogating the same mindset, and must avoid any outside influence that may "upset the apple cart" lest they be confronted with a reality check. A closed circuit mindset tends to grow worse due to feeding on itself until the methods used to protect it and propogate it within the group become more extreme. It is a downward spiral. Deep in her heart she knows that what she has done and is doing is wrong. She is fighting against herself. The wisest thing for her to do is to come clean and be honest with herself and others, find refuge in the truth. Only then will she have peace in her heart. Please assist me by contacting Chipo and encouraging her to do what is right. 

If you are in Zambia, please further assist me by letting her family know that they shd encourage Chipo to do what is right. They are based on the family farm (headed by Chipo's mother Jane) which is a 1 hectare farm just off the highway a few miles south of Kafue. It is past Chita Lodge, going south, and on the left hand side, not on, but close to the highway. It is immediately on the other side of the power lines, and is near the Kafue Boys School (on the south/southwest side of it). You can also contact Chipo by email csiamafuwa@yahoo.com, by phone (+1) 780 531 7603 and encourage her to do what is right. She is also on Whats App, IMO, and Facebook (she may change her phone number, WhatsApp, IMO, and Facebook accounts after this.) Your help is appreciated. Thank you!

As my son had his 4th birthday on April 24, 2024, I have been denied the blessing of being with him for this, and I was not allowed to send him a birthday gift because I am not even told where he (they) are staying. It's the "golden rule": He who has all the gold makes all the rules. Asher and me have been totally cut off from each other. 

This website is about a father fighting for, standing up for, and defending his son. I will never cease to defend and stand up for Asher, who is suffering the worst in all this. 


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